Are you looking to improve your oral sex skills? You’re not alone. Unfortunately, there are far too many blokes out there who struggle to locate the clitoris, let alone bring their partner to orgasm. But don’t worry, I am here to help and empower you with the knowledge you need.
It’s high time we stopped treating oral sex as a less important or “lesser” form of sexual activity than intercourse. All forms of consensual sex are valid and equal. And you don’t have to be an oral sex advocate to improve your skills and please your partner.
Here are some cunnilingus tips that every man should know and put into practice. Take a read, embrace the information, and don’t be afraid to share it with your partner. Life is too short for mediocre oral sex.
As you grow and mature, you’ll come to realize that going down on a woman is more than just third base or foreplay. Oral sex can be the main event and it’s important to treat each encounter as if it’s the first time, and to find out what your partner is in the mood for at that moment.
Every woman is different, so there’s no “right way” to do it, other than the way she enjoys it. But it’s incredibly sexy to observe someone else experiencing pleasure, and when both partners are truly in sync, oral sex can be just as satisfying to give as it is to receive.
Keep in mind that to truly enjoy giving oral sex, you need to be present in the moment, and not just thinking of it as a means to an end. And to be really good at it, you need to be a generous person who derives pleasure from pleasing others. It’s not about having a big tongue, it’s all about skill.
And remember, while having a decent sized penis is a nice bonus, it’s not the most important thing. Enthusiasm, and willingness to take your time, is key.
Do it right, and you’ll inspire some serious loyalty from your partner.
What Is Cunnilingus?
Cunnilingus is the act of orally stimulating a woman’s genitals, specifically her vulva and clitoris, for sexual pleasure.
It’s often referred to colloquially as “going down on” a woman or “performing oral sex on” a woman. The term cunnilingus is derived from the Latin words “cunnus” (meaning “vulva”) and “lingere” (meaning “to lick”).
It’s a form of oral sex that is practiced by people of all genders and sexual orientations. Cunnilingus is a important part of many people’s sexual lives and is often used as a form of foreplay or as the main event itself.
Why Do Men Like Giving Oral?
There are many reasons why men might enjoy giving oral sex. Some men find the act of performing cunnilingus to be pleasurable and intimate in itself, while others may enjoy the feeling of being able to pleasure their partner.
For some men, the physical sensations of oral sex can be enjoyable. The warm, wet environment of the mouth, the sensation of the tongue on the genitals, and the pleasurable vibrations caused by humming or making other oral sounds can all be pleasurable for the giver.
Some men may also enjoy the sense of power and control that comes from giving oral sex. They find it satisfying to be able to bring their partner to orgasm, and to be able to please their partner in this way.
Many men enjoy the emotional and psychological aspect of giving oral sex. They find it sexually exciting to observe their partner experiencing pleasure, and to be able to provide that pleasure for them. Being able to give their partner something that they desire and enjoy is a source of satisfaction for them.
For some men, there’s an emotional connection when they give oral sex. They may feel more connected to their partner, and more in tune with their partner’s desires.
The reasons why men might like giving oral sex are varied and personal. Different men may have different motivations and desires, but what they all have in common is the enjoyment of giving pleasure to their partner.
Do Women Like Oral?
Many women do enjoy receiving cunnilingus, as it can be a highly pleasurable and satisfying form of sexual activity. The stimulation of the clitoris, which is a highly sensitive and erogenous zone for many women, can lead to intense and satisfying orgasms.
Oral sex can also be an intimate and bonding experience for many women, as it requires a level of trust and vulnerability. For some women, the feeling of being desired and pleasured by their partner can be highly arousing.
That said, it’s important to note that every woman is different and what one person may enjoy, another person may not. Some women may not enjoy cunnilingus or may have mixed feelings about it, while others may feel indifferent or prefer other forms of sexual stimulation. It’s also possible that women may enjoy oral sex but do not want to receive it at a certain time or under certain circumstances.
It is key for partners to communicate openly about their desires and boundaries in order to ensure that both partners are comfortable and satisfied. It’s also very important for partners to be aware of the different preferences of their partner, and to be open to trying different things in order to find what feels most pleasurable for both of you.
How To Give Her The Best Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus can be a challenging form of sexual activity, but it doesn’t have to be. With the right mindset and a few helpful tips, you can master the art of pleasuring your partner.
Here are my go-to tips for performing cunnilingus that will make the experience more satisfying for both you and your partner:
Get Comfy
There are several things that both of you can do to make oral sex more comfortable:
- Communication is key. Before engaging in oral sex, it’s important for you both to talk about your desires, boundaries, and any concerns you may have. This allows for open and honest communication, and can help ensure that both partners feel comfortable during the experience.
- Take it slow. Oral sex can be overwhelming, especially if it’s the first time for one or both of you. Starting slowly and building up intensity can help you both feel more at ease and make the experience more enjoyable.
- Experiment with positions. Experimenting with different positions can help make oral sex more comfortable for both partners. For example, having the receiving partner lie on their back with a pillow under their hips can make it easier to access the genitals, while having the giving partner kneel or sit can make it more comfortable for them.
- Use lubrication. Lubrication can make oral sex more comfortable for both of you by reducing friction and dryness. Consider using a flavoured water-based lubricant to make the experience more comfortable (and tasty!).
- Establish a signal. It’s important for both partners to feel comfortable stopping or slowing down the oral sex if either of you are not enjoying it. Establishing a signal before starting can allow either of you to communicate your needs and make the experience more comfortable.
- Be clean. Good hygiene is essential for both partners before
Start Slow
Starting slowly when giving oral sex to her can be beneficial for several reasons:
- It allows her to become more comfortable and relaxed. Starting with gentle kisses and touches can help her adjust to the sensation, and make it more comfortable for her.
- It helps you build anticipation and pleasure. Starting slowly and building up intensity can make the experience more enjoyable for both of you, as it allows for a gradual increase in pleasure and intensity.
- It helps you learn her preferences. Going slowly allows you to pay attention to her cues, such as moans, breathing, and body language, and understand what she is enjoying.
- It helps you avoid over-stimulation. Oral sex can be overwhelming and uncomfortable, if done too fast or too rough. Starting slowly avoids her genital area to get over-stimulated, which can lead to discomfort or pain.
To start slowly when giving oral sex to her, you can begin with light kisses and touches on the outer parts of her genitals, such as the labia and the pubic area. Once she seems comfortable with this level of touch, you can begin to move closer to the clitoris, using gentle strokes and touches. You can also take time to explore her other erogenous zones, such as the inner thighs or the breasts, before moving on to direct stimulation of the clitoris.
Make sure to pay attention to her cues and to communicate openly. Ask for feedback, and be sure you’re both comfortable with the pace and the intensity. Remember that every person is different, and that you should work together to find what feels best for both of you.
Don’t Forget Her Pussy Lips
When it comes to cunnilingus, the focus is often on the clitoris, but there’s another important area to consider: the labia. The labia, also known as the “pussy lips,” are an integral part of the female genitals and can be a source of pleasure when stimulated during oral sex.
By rubbing, grinding, and pressing against the labia on the outside, you will still stimulate her clit, and this can create a lot of pleasure for your partner.
This can be a great way to add variation and create new sensations for your partner. Keep in mind that not all people may find this equally pleasurable but still can be fun part of the oral sex.
Red Riding Her Clitoral Hood
When giving oral sex to her, the clitoral hood can be a good place to begin.
The hood acts as a natural barrier that can protect the clitoris from being overstimulated, which can be uncomfortable or even painful for some women.
Additionally, by starting with the hood, you can build up pleasure gradually, making the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
The hood itself contains nerve endings that can also be stimulated and that can increase pleasure for her.
Kissing the clitoral hood can be a pleasurable way to stimulate her during oral sex. Here are a few tips on how to kiss the clitoral hood to give her the most pleasure:
- Start slowly: Begin by gently kissing and licking around the general area of the hood, taking care to avoid direct contact with the clitoris. This can help build anticipation and make the experience more enjoyable for her.
- Pay attention to her cues: As you kiss and lick the hood, pay attention to her reactions, such as moans, breathing, and body language. This can help you understand what she likes and what makes her comfortable.
- Experiment with different techniques: Try using different techniques such as flicking, sucking, or gently blowing on the hood. Experiment with different pressures and speeds to find what feels the best for her.
- Communication is key: Communication is crucial, ask her how she’s feeling and what she likes, as it’s important to respect boundaries, so you don’t overdo it and make her uncomfortable.
- Be patient: It may take time to find the right technique that works for her, and be willing to adjust accordingly.
It’s important to remember that every woman is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. Experiment with different techniques and pay attention to her cues and feedback to understand what feels the best for her.
The Rhythm Of The Night
Once your wife / girlfriend / fuck buddy is suitable warmed up, the best thing you can do is to be consistent and to focus on her clitoris.
The clitoris has approximately 8,000 nerve endings and it’s a key area of pleasure for many women.
If you’re with a new partner or unsure of what they prefer, try to pick a technique and stick with it.
Some popular options include running your tongue back and forth, up and down, in clockwise circles, or in a figure eight motion.
However, don’t be afraid to switch it up and try different patterns if your partner isn’t responding positively.
Read Her Body Language
One way to gauge how your partner is responding to your oral sex technique is to pay attention to her body language.
Are they moving their hips towards your face?
Are they making sounds of pleasure?
These are all positive signs that they are enjoying themselves.
However, if your partner is not responding, or appears to be unresponsive, it may be a sign that they are not enjoying what you’re doing. Don’t be afraid to ask for feedback, or ask her to guide you and help you pleasure her better.
Fuck Her With Your Eyes
Eye contact during oral sex can be important because it helps to create a sense of intimacy and connection between partners.
It allows each person to be fully present in the moment and to express their emotions and pleasure non verbally.
When one partner is giving oral sex and the other is receiving, maintaining eye contact can help to create a sense of trust and openness, allowing both partners to be more relaxed and to fully enjoy the experience.
Also it can be a powerful way to give and receive consent and to ensure that both partners are comfortable and happy with what is happening.
Making eye contact during cunnilingus also add on the feeling of being intimate and desired by your partner which enhance the pleasure for both partner
Talk To Her
Every woman’s pussy is unique. What worked for one person (your previous partner) may not work for another. But everyone wants to have a good time and reach their orgasm, good communication can help make that happen.
It’s important to not make assumptions about what a person likes and instead ask for their feedback and preferences.
Communication is key when it comes to oral sex, both during the act itself and outside of the bedroom, asking your partner what they like and what feels good for them, shows that you care about their pleasure and it’s a cornerstone of sexual consent.
Asking your partner what they like in oral sex is a sign of genuine interest in pleasing them. It’s a turn on for your partner to know that you want to make sure they are satisfied.
If you’re not sure what they like, take the time to explore their body, ask for feedback, and encourage them to guide you. Remember that it’s a part of the sexual process to inquire about your partner’s needs and wants, it’s not unsexy, it’s hotter!
Dirty Talk During Oral Sex
Dirty talk can be a great way to add an extra layer of excitement and intimacy to oral sex. Here are a few tips for incorporating dirty talk into your cunnilingus:
- Get consent first: Before you start talking dirty, make sure your partner is comfortable with it and open to the idea.
- Use descriptive language: Use descriptive and evocative language to describe what you’re doing and how you’re feeling.
- Share your thoughts and desires: Tell your partner what you’re thinking and what you want to do to them. For example, “I want to taste you so badly” or “I can’t stop thinking about how good you’re going to feel in my mouth.”
- Listen to your partner: Your partner’s reactions to your dirty talk will give you a sense of what they like and what turns them on. Take note of what gets them going and adjust your language accordingly.
- Be confident: Speak in a low, confident, and sexually charged tone. You will feel more comfortable and confident in what you’re saying if you believe it yourself.
Remember to use any expressions that are only appropriate between the two of you, be mindful of boundaries and always respect your partner.
Let Her Know You’re Enjoying Yourself
It can be easy to get caught up in the moment and focus solely on what you’re doing, but don’t be afraid to make some noise! It’s important for your partner to know that you’re enjoying yourself, so don’t hold back.
Allow yourself to breathe deeply, moan and make sounds of pleasure. These sounds can help to communicate your enjoyment to your partner and make the experience more satisfying for both of you.
You can also take the time to verbally communicate with your partner, tell them how much you’re enjoying the experience and how much you appreciate the way they taste or their scent. Using verbal cues can help to make the experience more intimate and enjoyable.
Take A Breath
Using your breath during cunnilingus can add an extra level of sensation and intimacy to the experience. One way to use your breath is to exhale gently onto the clitoris or other sensitive areas, creating a cool and tingling sensation that can be very pleasurable. You can also use your breath to create a rhythmic pattern of blowing and kissing, which can create a sense of anticipation and build up to a more intense climax.
Another technique is to incorporate deep breathing during cunnilingus, this can help you to stay relaxed and focused on your partner, which can make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
Slow and controlled breathing can add a sense of sensuality and intimacy, which can heighten the pleasure for your partner. You could take a moment to synchronise your breath with your partner and taking in their scent, this will help you to be fully present in the moment, and it creates a deeper connection with your partner.
Using your breath to vary the intensity of your oral sex is something that you can try. Start off with slow and gentle breaths, and gradually increase the intensity and speed of your breath as the stimulation becomes more intense.
This can help to create a more dynamic and engaging experience for your partner and bring them closer to orgasm.
Use A Different Position
When it comes to cunnilingus, don’t limit yourself to just one position. Experiment with different positions to find what works best for you and your partner.
From the traditional missionary style, to face-sitting, to licking from the back, there are plenty of ways to enjoy oral sex.
It’s also not limited to just lying down positions, you can also try it standing or sitting, the possibilities are endless.
So be open to trying new things and don’t be afraid to switch things up. Your partner might appreciate the variety and the willingness to explore new things.
Use Your Fingers
Adding penetration with a finger or a toy can enhance the oral sex experience, but it’s not something that everyone wants.
The best way to know what your partner prefers is to ask them.
Some people enjoy external stimulation only, some like a combination of internal and external, and others enjoy penetration.
Don’t be afraid to experiment with all of them and pay attention to your partner’s body language, sounds and verbal cues to understand what they are enjoying more.
Before trying penetration, make sure you have permission and start with one finger, using a hooking or “come hither” motion to access the G-spot area. This can be done in conjunction with oral stimulation, or on its own.
If you want to try internal stimulation alone but aren’t sure what to do with your mouth, you could try talking dirty or kissing her tummy and tits. Communication is key, if at any point you or your partner are unsure about how it’s going, ask for feedback and adjust accordingly.
Use A Sex Toy
There are several ways to incorporate sex toys during oral sex that can enhance the pleasure for your partner.
One way is to use a G-spot wand for penetration, focusing on the G-spot while using your tongue on the clitoris. This can provide a powerful combination of internal and external stimulation.
Another way is to use a vibrator on the external glans of the clitoris. This allows you to massage the clitoris with the vibrator in the same way you would with your tongue.
You can also use your mouth in combination with the vibrator, for example by penetration with your tongue or gently stimulating the bottom of the vaginal opening, as this area contains many sensitive nerve endings.
How To Get Better At Giving Head
After you have both reached orgasm (or orgasms, if you’re young!), it’s the perfect time to have a little pillow talk with your partner. Communication is an important part of your post sex activities, and talking, cuddling and discussing what just happened can help you both process your emotions and feel more at ease.
No matter the type of relationship you have, whether casual or long-term, showing respect and making sure your partner’s needs are met is essential. Everyone deserves to feel taken care of, not just physically but also emotionally.
It’s also a great opportunity to get feedback and to find out what worked well for your partner, and what they enjoyed the most. By constantly improving your skills, you can make sure that each subsequent sexual encounter is as fulfilling as possible.
Advanced Tips And Techniques For Giving Cunnilingus
There are several advanced tips and techniques for giving cunnilingus that you can try to take your oral sex skills to the next level:
- Use your hands: While using your mouth and tongue is the main event when it comes to cunnilingus, using your hands can add extra stimulation and pleasure for your partner. Try using one hand to massage the labia and another to stimulate the clitoris, or use one hand for penetration and the other to pleasure the clitoris.
- Experiment with temperature: Experimenting with different temperatures can be a great way to add variety to your oral sex routine. Try using ice cubes to cool down the area or a warm wet washcloth to heat it up.
- Incorporate anal play: For some people, incorporating anal play into cunnilingus can increase pleasure. Use your fingers or a small toy to gently massage the anal area while performing cunnilingus.
- Add suction: One way to add more intensity to cunnilingus is by incorporating suction. Try using your mouth to create a vacuum around the clitoris, or use your lips to create gentle suction.
- Use your breath: Using your breath can be a powerful tool for adding extra stimulation during cunnilingus. Try blowing gently on the clitoris, or using your breath to cool down the area after using heat.
- Try different positions: As mentioned before, the classic missionary position is not the only one you can use for cunnilingus, feel free to try different positions for different angles and levels of access.
The Music Of Love
Music can be helpful during oral sex because it can help set the mood and create a more relaxed and sensual atmosphere. It can also help mask any sounds that may be embarrassing or disruptive to the moment.
Some people might find that listening to music can help them get into a more sensual head space and can be a way to boost confidence and pleasure.
Not to mention that music can be a great way to mask any noise from the neighbours.
Here are five example songs that you could consider playing during oral sex:
- “Sexual Healing” by Marvin Gaye
- “I Want Your Love” by Chic
- “Adore” by Prince
- “Slow” by Kylie Minogue
- “Come Away With Me” by Norah Jones
These songs have a slow tempo, sensual lyrics, and a soothing melody that can help set the mood for oral sex.
You might want to keep the volume low enough that you can still hear your partner’s sounds and you can also experiment with different genres and songs to see which ones you prefer.
How Can I Talk To My Partner About Cunnilingus?
When it comes to discussing cunnilingus with your partner, it’s important to remember that open and honest communication is key. Here are a few tips to help you bring up the topic:
- Choose the right time: Make sure you choose a time when both of you are relaxed and in a good mood. Avoid bringing up the topic when one of you is feeling stressed, tired or annoyed.
- Use “I” statements: Instead of making assumptions or accusations, use “I” statements to express your own feelings and thoughts. For example, “I would like to try giving you oral sex” or “I would like to know more about what you like during oral sex.”
- Make it a two-way conversation: Make sure to ask your partner their thoughts, feelings and desires as well. Remember that good communication is a two-way street.
- Be respectful: Remember that oral sex is a sensitive topic and not everyone may be comfortable discussing it. Respect your partner’s feelings and boundaries and don’t pressure them into something they’re not ready for.
- Be open to compromise: Remember that cunnilingus is about pleasure for both parties, so be willing to compromise and find a middle ground that works for both of you.
As for broaching the topic, you could say something like “I’d like to improve my skills when it comes to oral sex, is there anything you’d like to share with me or any tips you’d like to give me?”
Is Cunnilingus Safe?
Cunnilingus can be considered generally safe, as long as both partners are healthy and practice good hygiene. However, as with any sexual activity, there are some risks to keep in mind.
One risk of cunnilingus is the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Some common STIs that can be transmitted through oral sex include herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, and human papillomavirus (HPV). To reduce the risk of STI transmission, it’s recommended to use barrier methods such as dental dams or condoms during cunnilingus.
It is also important to be aware of your own and your partner’s sexual health status and communicate openly and honestly about it. It is recommended that both partners get tested for STIs before engaging in any form of sexual activity.
Another risk to consider is allergic reactions to products such as lubricants, spermicides or condoms. If you or your partner experience any discomfort, such as itching, burning or rash, discontinue use of the product and seek medical advice if necessary.
Good hygiene is also important to minimize the risk of infection. It is recommended that you and your partner maintain good personal hygiene, especially in the genital area, and to be mindful of any odor or changes in smell.
In general, practicing safe sex by using barrier methods, communicating openly with your partner about sexual health, and maintaining good personal hygiene can greatly reduce the risk of any unwanted consequences associated with cunnilingus.
Can You Get An STD From Going Down On A Woman?
It is possible to contract certain sexually transmitted infections (STIs) through cunnilingus. Some common STIs that can be transmitted through oral sex include:
- Herpes: Herpes is caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV) and can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact, such as when a partner’s mouth comes into contact with a partner’s genitals that have herpes sores.
- Syphilis: Syphilis is caused by the bacterium Treponema pallidum and can be transmitted through oral sex if the infected partner has syphilis sores or rashes on or around their genitals or mouth.
- Gonorrhea: Gonorrhea is caused by the bacterium Neisseria gonorrhoeae and can be transmitted through oral sex if the infected partner has the bacteria in their genitals or rectum.
- Human Papillomavirus (HPV): HPV is a common virus that can cause genital warts, and certain types of HPV can cause oral and throat cancer. It can be transmitted through oral sex, especially if the infected partner has visible warts on their genitals.
- Chlamydia: Chlamydia is caused by the bacterium Chlamydia trachomatis and can be transmitted through oral sex if the infected partner has the bacteria in their genitals.
It is worth noting that the risk of STI transmission through cunnilingus can be significantly reduced by using barrier methods such as dental dams or condoms. It’s also important for both partners to be aware of their sexual health status and communicate openly about it, and to get tested for STIs regularly.
It is recommended that both partners get tested for STIs before engaging in any form of sexual activity, and especially when starting a new sexual relationship. Regular testing is important for early detection of any infections, which allows prompt treatment and reduces the likelihood of passing an infection on to others.
What Are Signs Of STD’s In Your Mouth?
Sorry guys, not a super nice subject, but an important one all the same.
STDs can affect the mouth and throat, and some common signs of oral STDs include:
- Sores or lesions on or around the mouth, tongue, or lips: These can be painful and may be accompanied by itching or burning.
- Swollen or painful lymph nodes in the neck or under the jaw.
- Red or white patches on the tongue, gums, or inside of the cheeks: These may be indicative of an infection such as oral thrush or leukoplakia.
- Blisters or ulcers on the gums or in the mouth: These may indicate the presence of herpes simplex virus.
- A sore throat that doesn’t go away: This may be caused by gonorrhea, which can infect the throat during oral sex.
- A persistent sore throat or hoarseness, especially if accompanied by other symptoms such as weight loss, fever, night sweats or difficulty swallowing, could be indication of throat cancer caused by HPV.
- A change in the color or appearance of the tongue or other parts of the mouth that does not improve with brushing or other oral care.
- It’s important to note that some oral STIs don’t have any noticeable symptoms, or the symptoms may be mild and easily overlooked. So it’s important to get tested if you suspect you may have been exposed to an STD, or if you have any of the above symptoms.
It’s also important to remember that if you have an oral infection that is causing symptoms, you should avoid oral sex or other intimate contact until the infection has cleared up.
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